Author: karlareflections

Journey through life…

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Journey Called LifeI have thought a lot lately about my journey in life thus far, and how when I was young and very beautiful, I did not have peace or serenity in my life, or live in harmony with other people. I lived a rather jaded lifestyle, and a careless one if that.

I wouldn’t be here today if it wasn’t for the power of my mom’s prayers. I didn’t have any concept of danger, and I had the attitude, “Well I am a pastor’s daughter so no one can mess with the anointed.” I used that attitude as a crutch to continue to live recklessly. Then 6 years ago I hit rock bottom and was dead in every way possible – except physically, but if I would have continued on the path that I was on, very soon I would have been in the grave.

Now that I’m older and less attractive, I have more inner peace, serenity, and self-respect I look older because of the careless lifestyle that I once lived. I have come to the realization that beauty on the outside really doesn’t get anyone anywhere, it’s the beauty on the inside that really matters.

Things aren’t always how they seem to be. Someone can be very attractive, but have quite turbulent waters underneath of them. As people in society, we think because someone looks good, or something looks glamorous, then everything is alright. People can put on facades. The question is whether people and things are as glamorous as they seem to be.

I will tell you from my experience that things aren’t always what they seem to be. I was absolutely gorgeous, but my lifestyle was a lot less to be desired.

Karylin Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications. She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.

Magnifying Our Church Callings

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Mormon Bishop Counseling A MemberThrough prayer and discernment, a Bishop or Branch President (leaders of a local Latter-day Saint congregation) may extend a calling to a member of the congregation, not necessarily because he feels that the person is spiritually mature to do all that is required of the calling, but because he believes the Lord wants that person to grow and mature spiritually, and the calling that has been extended will aid in that process.

Once a calling has been accepted by the member, it then becomes that person’s responsibility to do all that they possibly can to magnify that calling. To magnify our calling does not mean that we are expected to work alone, but by the same token, it does not mean that we can neglect our responsibilities, or delegate all the work that needs to be  done to others to do. If we truly wish to magnify our calling, we must learn to accept the full responsibility for those things that we are asked to do, and not expect others to do all the work, but rather, we learn how to work with others in getting things done.

It is not for other members of the congregation to sit in judgment as to whether a person is magnifying their calling or not, or to consider them as being spiritually immature because they don’t seem to be doing what some may think they should be doing. Each member, however, is to be concerned about their own spiritual progression and make sure that they are doing the things that they should do. We must realize that the level of spiritual maturity will differ for each person – some will mature faster than others – but each person progresses one step at a time – line upon line, precept upon precept.

Yes, there will be those who accept callings and then find reasons why they cannot fulfill their callings simply because they do not have the heart desire to do the things that they have been called to do. That is unfortunate. However, there are times when people do have legitimate reasons about why they may not be able to fulfill a calling. Whatever the reasons, it is the responsibility of their spiritual leader (Bishop or Branch President) to counsel with the person, and through prayer and discernment, it may be decided that the person should be released from his calling.

Members of the congregation must realize that there may be more to the story than they know about why a person is unable to fulfill his calling. Members must also realize and understand that they raise their hand to sustain a person in a particular calling, signifying that they are willing to support a person in his calling, not judge him in his calling. By raising their hand to sustain a person, they agree to do all that they can to help that person to magnify his calling.

** The concept for this post was derived from original thoughts by Karlyn Stebbins.

Karylin Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications. She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.

An Unconditional Love

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Our Savior's LoveValentine’s Day seems to be the one day out of the year that LOVE is celebrated. But, why do we need to have a special day set aside to show our love one towards another?

When it comes to a perfect example of what love is, and how to love, Christ is our Great Exemplar. He willingly gave His life for us and died on a cruel Roman cross, thus showing the greatest price of love. There is no greater love than the unconditional love that the Savior has for each of us, despite our failures and shortcomings.

Each Day, not just one day out of the year,  we need to show our love for one another. Is that really too much to ask? We, as individuals, do not have unconditional love for others. There’s always conditions placed on our love for someone. We need to pray that God will give us unconditional love towards others – that He will teach us to love others as He loves us.

Karylin Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications. She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.

Do You Really Want The Truth?

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Truth vs A LieOne of the things that bothers me about people in general is that they claim to want to hear and know the truth, but once you tell them the truth and begin calling a spade a spade, they tend to turn a deaf ear towards you and pay you absolutely no mind whatsoever.

That is something that really grates on my nerves because when people say that they want to hear the truth, and you tell them the truth, then they should at least take some of what you have said under consideration instead of going to great lengths to totally ignore you.

These types of people are not being honest with themselves because they don’t want to hear the truth, they only want to hear what they want to hear. Isn’t that a form of deception at it’s finest? I believe that it is because these people are living in self-deception. I have a saying that I live by, “I’m not a bakery and I don’t sugar coat things.” In other words, you shouldn’t ask me to tell you the truth if that is not what you really want to hear.

Blaise Pascal - TruthKarylin Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications. She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.

Being Found Out

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Not Being TruthfulWhen we tell a lie, we think we are only lying to others around us, but we soon  find that we also lie to ourselves because we start acting like someone we are not to cover up for the lies we have told. For whatever reason, we never think that our lies and deceit will catch up with us until we become entangled in a web that we cannot escape.

There’s a saying that has stuck with me for many years and it goes like this: “What is in the wash, will come out in the rinse.” That saying is so true because by the time the “wash” gets to the rinse cycle, the lies start to come out, even before the rinse cycle is completely finished, and all the lies and deceit that we may have practiced are left totally out in the open.

Karylin Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications. She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.

There’s No Right Way To Do Wrong

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Accept the Blame for Our Own ActionsOftentimes people think that their actions are better than another person’s actions even though what they are doing is wrong. We need to quit justifying and rationalizing what we do because there’s no right way to do wrong. Wrong is wrong, and sin is sin, no matter how hard we may try to convince ourselves that what we are doing is right.

Karylin Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications. She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.