You may ask me, “Why is that such a profound statement?” and “How does it relate to the life experiences that you have had or are experiencing at this moment?” The answer is really quite simple. I am a victim of severe childhood sexual abuse which included being forced to watch satanic rituals performed by my father and his minions. I know that I will never get an apology from my father or any of his minions for the trauma that they have caused in my life. Nevertheless, I can choose to stop acting like a victim and eventually become a victor through my Heavenly Father by accepting the fact that no matter how gory the experiences might have been, He has a purpose and plan for my life. He is the One who can turn the gory experiences and the details of those experiences into something beautiful which will ultimately bring Him the glory.
I have found that it is no longer necessary for me to have to bear the burden of all the past experiences in my life, nor do I have to live with feelings of guilt, shame, and remorse. It is time for me to stop being the victim and to stop focusing on all of things that I missed out on because of being robbed of a “normal” life.
I need to abandon the old attitude that “the world owes me something,” because the truth of the matter is that no one owes me anything. However, I do owe it to my Heavenly Father to live my life as an example of what He can do in and through me. I know that He has a work for me to do, therefore I no longer have the time to act like a victim, nor do I have the time or energy to live my life in the shadows of others. I realize that now is the time for me to start being a victor and accepting myself for who I am in spite of my inadequacies and deficiencies, and come into being the Real Woman that my Heavenly Father wants for His glory and His victory.
It dawned on me that I am the master of my destiny and that life is exactly what I make it. I can make it tough on myself by continuing to not accept myself and my situation, or I can start owning up to my responsibility and being the Karlyn Kay Stebbins that my Heavenly Father expects of me. He has seen me through so much in my life and has delivered me. I now realize that I am more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus, and I CAN be a victor instead of a victim of earthly circumstances and Satan’s purposes.
Karlyn Kay Stebbins
8 April 2015
Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:
I have a double major in sociology and psychology and a minor in communications. I was before a licensed addictions counselor in a treatment center up until recently. Due to a drastic series of some life-changing events, I now live in Hawaii and I am going back to school for my master degree in sociology.
I am a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter day Saints and have been a member since 26 March 2011.
My interests are furthering my education and spending time with my partner and her friends and eventually becoming active in the LGBT Community here in Hawaii, and doing some addictions counseling work within that Community. I love to read, write, and hang out at the beach.
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A BYU devotional address delivered by Elder Jefferey R. Holland on 2 March 1999.
Everyone feels adversity before great moments and big decisions, but we should still move forward with faith and confidence in the Lord.
“Listen not to a tale- bearer or slanderer, for he tells thee nothing out of good-will; but as he discovereth of the secret of others, so he will of thine in turn.” – Socrates
It would prove wise counsel to beware the talebearer. The talebearer is an extremely slanderous and scandalous person. He speaks with a forked tongue that is as deadly as the venom of an Egyptian cobra. He weaves a web that is more intricate than that of a venomous spider, ensnaring and entangling his unsuspecting victims. The talebearer often knows a minuscule of the truth, and even that truth which he professes to know in time becomes twisted and distorted, resulting in one vicious lie after another being told. Seeking after the truth, or even telling the truth has never been, and never will be his forte. Instead he basks in the hate and discontent that he causes by spreading malicious falsities.
Those who dare to associate with the talebearer place themselves in peril. At first he may seem as harmless as a lamb, but once he has gained favor, his true identity as a ravenous wolf comes to light. He will lure you into his den and hold you captive there. He will not release you until you agree to take part in his devious behavior. In time you will become just like him, a slanderous and scandalous person who spreads malicious falsities, causing undue malice and discontent.
And so, it proves a foolish adventure to want to tread upon the playground of the talebearer. If perchance you do happen to stumble upon his playground, it is to your advantage to vacate immediately. It will proffer you nothing but relentless stress and heartache to stay and try to befriend him, for he is not the true friend of anyone. He only seeks to rally innocent victims to champion his cause. He is cold-hearten and ruthless, and when he gets the opportunity, he will use you as the subject of the next tale that he bears.