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10 Important Things I Would Teach My Children About Racism, Bigotry, and Hatred

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Children of Different Races

1. Never label any particular “race” of people as being stupid, ignorant, or bigoted. Stupidity, ignorance, and bigotry comes in all shades.

2. “Race” is a man-made term used to divide groups of people and often to build walls of division, derision, degradation, belittlement, and even hatred.

3. Accept all people for whom God created them to be, and always try to build bridges of hope, love, peace, and understanding.

4. To judge a person by the color of his or her skin is to prove your level of misguided ignorance, and not necessarily your level of intelligence. Intelligent people do not allow the color of a person’s skin to create walls of division, but rather they work together, regardless of “race,” to build bridges of hope, love, peace, and understanding.

5. Never make rash and hasty decisions or opinions about any person until you have tried to walk a mile in his or her shoes, and have strived to make some effort to at least understand what makes him or her who they are. In other words, at least try to view the world through their eyes and not always your own.

6. Never be quick to criticize another person, or quick to point out their shortcomings and faults, unless you have seriously taken the time to look carefully at the individual who looks back at you in your mirror and can honestly declare that person whom you see as being “perfect.”

7. Judge no person by the color of his or her skin, but only by the content of his or her character. The color of the skin has nothing to do with intelligence levels or anything else for that matter.

8. Be quick to show love, patience, and understanding, and slow and careful to despise or reject another because of supposed differences. Strive to find the commonalities that can bind you as brothers and sisters, and focus less on the differences that supposedly cause division between you.

9. Treat all humanity as persons of dignity and self-worth, and strive to eradicate the words “hate” and “hatred” from your vocabularies. For to hate another often, in turn, leads to more hatred, which eventually leads to a bloody battlefield of contention and strife. Always remember, hatred only begets more hatred. We need not be at war with one another, but should try to find ways to live together as brothers and sisters.

10. Those who are incessant to use the “race” card for every situation, or to judge another person according to the color of his or her skin or “race” are in and of themselves racist and bigots regardless of the color of their skin. Beware of being numbered among their ranks.

 

Do More Than Just Exist. . . .

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Do More Than Just Exist

Today, 17 October 2015, is my 57th birthday. Where have the years gone? Am I really that old?

When I was born at 10:17 p.m. Eastern Standard Time on Friday, 17 October 1958, Dwight D. Eisenhower was the 34th President of the United States. It is hard to believe that in the span of my short life, I have witnessed the election and administration of 10 presidents.

I was born in what was then known as the town of Salisbury, Maryland. I remember as a boy when out with my parents riding in the car going to different places, people would stop and ask them where Salisbury was, and my parents would always reply, “You just drove through it!” Today Salisbury is a major city on the Delmarva Peninsula. The hospital where I was born was known simply as the Salisbury Hospital. It has long since been remodeled into what is now the Salisbury Regional Medical Center. When I started school in 1963 at the age of 5, I attended an all Black elementary school. I would not experience integration of public schools until I was in high school and was bused across town to attend one of the local high schools.

In the same year that I started school, John Fitzgerald Kennedy, the 35th President of the United States, was assassinated at 12:30 p.m. Central Standard Time on Friday, 22 November 1963, in Dealey Plaza in Dallas, Texas. I can still recall watching his funeral procession on television, and the image of John Jr. saluting his father’s flag-draped casket as it passed by. The Civil Rights Movement was still at the forefront of the news, and just three short months before the assassination of President Kennedy, on 28 August 1963, America was listening to Civil Rights activist, Martin Luther King, Jr. deliver his timeless “I Have A Dream” speech to over 250,000 civil rights supporters from the steps of the Lincoln Memorial in Washington D.C. In his immortal speech which became a defining moment in the American Civil Rights Movement, Dr. King called for an end to racism in the United States. I would have never imagined that at the young age of 9,  on 4 April 1968, I would hear the television announcer say that Martin Luther King, Jr., at the age of 39, had been shot at the Lorraine Motel in Memphis, Tennessee. He was rushed to St. Joseph’s Hospital, where he was pronounced dead at 7:05PM that evening. I also remember watching his funeral services on television, and the image of his endearing wife, Coretta Scott King, and their young children.

Yes, many things have changed since 17 October 1958, but some things have also remained the same on many levels. What I have admired about the people aforementioned, as well as other greats that have influenced my young life is that none of them lived their life just to be living it. Each of them worked hard to make even a small difference and to make the world a better place for everyone to live in. It is because of that inspiration that at the start of another year of life, I have decided to adopt the following as a new motto: “Anima plus est quam esse diem. Verum cum cupiam vivere incipiat qualitercumque porrexeris plenam potentiam quique ante destinatum est.” (Translation: Life is more than just existing from day-to-day. You truly begin to live when you yearn to reach for your full potential and become who you were meant to be.) I hope that you too will resolve to do more than just exist.

Humble Thoughts Concerning the Second Coming and the End of the World

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The Second Coming of Christ

Humble Thoughts Concerning the Second Coming and the End of the World

With all the chaos and confusion that is happening in our world today, it is of little wonder that so many people are asking the same questions that the disciples asked of the Master centuries ago, “Tell us, when shall these things be? and what shall be the sign of thy coming, and of the end of the world?” (Matthew 24:3). The Master’s response to them still applies to us during these often turbulent, confused, and chaotic times:

And Jesus answered and said unto them, Take heed that no man deceive you. For many shall come in my name, saying, I am Christ; and shall deceive many. And ye shall hear of wars and rumours of wars: see that ye be not troubled: for all these things must come to pass, but the end is not yet. For nation shall rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom: and there shall be famines, and pestilences, and earthquakes, in divers places. All these are the beginning of sorrows. Then shall they deliver you up to be afflicted, and shall kill you: and ye shall be hated of all nations for my name’s sake. And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another. And many false prophets shall rise, and shall deceive many. And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold. But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved. And this gospel of the kingdom shall be preached in all the world for a witness unto all nations; and then shall the end come. (Matthew 24:4-14)

There are many good hearten people, including some Christians, who are anxiously anticipating the Second Coming of Jesus Christ, even to the point of making futile attempts at guessing the day and the hour when He shall appear. However, scriptures emphatically teach us:

But of that day and hour knoweth no man, no, not the angels of heaven, but my Father only. But as the days of Noe were, so shall also the coming of the Son of man be. For as in the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark, and knew not until the flood came, and took them all away; so shall also the coming of the Son of man be. (Mathew 24:36-39)

Scriptures also remind us, “For yourselves know perfectly that the day of the Lord so cometh as a thief in the night. . . .Therefore let us not sleep, as do others; but let us watch and be sober.” (1 Thessalonians 5:2,6)

While there are some people who put their trust in chariots, and some who put their trust in horses, I will continue to remember the name of the Lord our God (See Psalm 20:7) and strive to endure to the end.

Therefore, I will no more put my confidence and trust in the speculations of man about the Second Coming of Christ than I will in those who purport that the four “blood moons” signal the end of the world. Instead of being overly concerned and feeding into much of the frenzy of the false and nonsensical teachings about the Second Coming and the end of the age, I choose to make sure that my house is in order, and that I am ready to meet the Savior at any day, at any moment or hour of the day. I choose to keep my lamp filled with oil to be ready when the Bridegroom comes.

Instead of heeding the vain teachings and babbling of men, we would be wise to follow the teachings of the Master Himself as in the “Parable of the Ten Virgins:”

Then shall the kingdom of heaven be likened unto ten virgins, which took their lamps, and went forth to meet the bridegroom. And five of them were wise, and five were foolish. They that were foolish took their lamps, and took no oil with them: but the wise took oil in their vessels with their lamps. While the bridegroom tarried, they all slumbered and slept. And at midnight there was a cry made, Behold, the bridegroom cometh; go ye out to meet him. Then all those virgins arose, and trimmed their lamps. And the foolish said unto the wise, Give us of your oil; for our lamps are gone out. But the wise answered, saying, Not so; lest there be not enough for us and you: but go ye rather to them that sell, and buy for yourselves. And while they went to buy, the bridegroom came; and they that were ready went in with him to the marriage: and the door was shut. Afterward came also the other virgins, saying, Lord, Lord, open to us. But he answered and said, Verily I say unto you, I know you not. Watch therefore, for ye know neither the day nor the hour wherein the Son of man cometh. (Matthew 25:1-14)

O be wise; what can I say more? (Jacob 6:12, Book of Mormon)

2 Timothy 3:1-5

Mene, Mene, Tekel, Upharsin

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If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.” (2 Chronicles 7:14, emphasis added)

Mene, Mene, Tekel, Upharsin

As I come across news in social media venues about what is taking place in our world today, I become even more convinced that the handwriting is clearly on the wall. The world as we once knew it is rapidly coming to an end. I am not preaching a doom and gloom message, but the signs are right before our eyes.

In 1987, the band R.E.M released a song called “It’s the End of the World.” The starting lyrics of that song are as follows, “It’s the end of the world as we know it . It’s the end of the world as we know it. It’s the end of the world as we know it. And I feel fine.” The sad commentary is that there are too many people, including good hearten Christians, who are looking at the world situation and are beginning to sing along with the lyrics of R.E.M.’s song. There are too many people who have decided to sit quietly by and do and say absolutely nothing with the attitude of “Que Sera, Sera” (Whatever will be, will be). In that same vein, there are others who have adopted the philosophy of life which states, “Eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow we die.” Unfortunately, because they have decided to live “La Vida Loca” (The Crazy Life) and follow the philosophies and ideologies of men, they have turned a deaf ear to truth, and a blind eye to the reality that “tomorrow” may come sooner than they expect. When it does come, they may well discover that maybe life was not just one big party after another after all.

Supreme Court in Rainbow ColorsThe Supreme Court’s ruling to legalize same-sex marriages in all 50 states did more than just grant the LGBT community new-found freedom. It opened the doors for many other interested groups to begin to cry out for their “rights” and “freedoms,” while in the same breath decrying the guaranteed rights and freedoms of others. The ruling did not necessarily re-calibrate the scales of justice in the interest of all concerned, but rather the needle of the scales still points off-center in favor of whichever group believes that their “rights” and “freedoms” are justly protected, and oftentimes that particular group shuns the rights and freedoms of others.

We will have to agree to disagree, if that be the case, but same-sex relations and marriages are no more an accepted societal norm than pedophilia, incest, bestiality, nudity, any type of open sex acts, or anything of that ilk. Yet, at the same time, we must realize that the gates have now been swung wide open to invite anybody and everybody who feels that their “rights” and “freedoms”are violated to “rush to justice” to plead their case for the same.

How can any court of the land, let alone the Supreme Court, say that same-sex marriages are legal, but yet a mother cannot marry her own daughter, a father cannot marry his own daughter, a mother cannot marry her own son, or a father cannot marry his own son? Would that not be considered discriminatory? Do they not also have “rights” and should they not have the “freedom” to express those “rights’? For the record, an article appeared in the media, as early as January 2015, about an 18-year-old girl who has dated her father for two years, and has plans to marry him and have children by him. Their plan is to get married and then move to New Jersey where adult incest is supposedly legal. Add to all of this confusion, that pedophiles are also diligently seeking their “rights” to have sex with underage children because they argue that “An adult’s desire to have sex with children is “normative.” Their biggest rallying cry is to lower the age of consent to at least 14 years of age. (See this article also).

It is quite obvious to me that our world is spinning rapidly out of control. What was once considered acceptable and the norm in society, is now frowned upon as being ludicrous and nonsensical, and that which once seared the conscience, or that society labeled as being abnormal, is now being considered the new normality for society.  The sad commentary is that many good hearten “Christians” are also climbing aboard the first bandwagon that rolls down their streets without question or reservation. Even some “pastors” have left teaching sound doctrine because they have had their ears tickled by the vain voices of men and thus have decided to join the ranks of those whose philosophy is, “If it feels good, just do it!” Yes, without a doubt, the handwriting is on the proverbial wall, and our world is on a course of certain destruction. “Mene, Mene, Tekel, Upharsin!”

Take Some Time For Yourself

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Take some time for yourself

It proves unhealthy and unwise to want to dedicate our entire life to being concerned about the welfare of others and never taking any time to take care of our own well-being. If we do not take care of ourselves we will eventually find ourselves stressed out and burnt out, and of no real service to anyone else or even ourselves.

There comes a time in all of our lives when we need to pause, take a step back, review, and reevaluate the priorities of our life. There comes a time when we need to take control of our own life, and not allow others to always be the “driver of the bus,” taking us only to the places that they wish to go. There comes a time when we need to reassess our situation in life and start to realize that everyone’s “that” is not necessarily any more important than our “this.” In other words, there comes a time when we just need to say, “No! I am not doing “that.” I am doing “this” now. When I get the time, I will get to “that.” And when we do so, we not cower, but stand our ground.

Unfortunately there are people in this world who enjoy nothing more than placing undue demands on our time and resources. They attempt to use us as their proverbial puppets on a string, never considering, nor caring, how much undue stress they place upon us in trying to always satisfy their needs and wants. In all fairness, however, we must get to the point in our life when we begin to realize that all the stress that we experience in life is not always the direct fault of others. Much of the stress that we experience is directly related to the stress that we place on ourselves. As a result, it is often that stress that we put upon ourselves that eventually causes total burnout.

Therefore, it proves unselfish to want to take some time for ourselves and to take care of ourselves. In fact, it proves foolish not to do so so. Although we may have a heart’s desire to want to try to solve the world’s problems, and to always be there for everyone else, there comes a time when the person that we should be there for the most is ourselves.

We cannot spend our entire life thinking that we have to always be the “go to” person. We need to take off our proverbial capes, because try as some of us might, we are not super beings, we are human beings – mortals made of flesh and blood, with emotions and feelings. If we do not take care of ourselves, the hard cold reality is that most of the time, nobody else will.

It is a good thing to want to help and care for others, but in all that we do, we must remember to always take good care of ourselves.

Look After Yourself

Do Not Devalue Others

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Woman Taken in Adultery

Throughout the course of my life, I have been devalued by many people, including my own parents, and to this day I continue to devalue not only myself, but others as well. I have come to realize that I am in no place to devalue myself, let alone others, for we are all fearfully and wonderfully made.

It is clear that discrimination against people because of their sexual orientation has all but become common place in our nation today. However, the fact remains that God is a God of inclusivity and not exclusivity, and that He will reward those who diligently seek Him.

Just because a person may not fit into the mold of what we or society may believe as “normal,” it does not give us a poetic license to devalue that person. Likewise, if our opinions differ from that of another person, we should not devalue that person and make them feel as though they are inferior or that their opinions are inconsequential.

It amazes me that some people who profess that they are followers of Jesus Christ, are some of the worse offenders of devaluing people. For example, let us examine the account of the woman who was found  guilty of adultery as recorded in John 8:3-7:

And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst, they say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act. Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou? This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not. So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.

The account goes on to tell us that after the Master had given His response, those who would otherwise be this woman’s accusers, drop their stones and went their way realizing that because of the conviction in their own sinful hearts, they were in no place to devalue another. With no one but Himself and the woman remaining, He turns to her and asks, “Woman, where are those thine accusers? Hath no man condemned thee?” (John 8:10). In modern-day vernacular, the question might be asked, “Where are those who have attempted to devalue you? Where have they gone?”

We must spend our lives edifying people instead of being quick to devalue them. Every person is a child of God. Thus, they deserve to be treated with self-worth, respect, and human dignity. We should be more inclusive and less exclusive in our thinking and treatment of others. We should heed the words spoken by the Master. Said He, “Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again” (Matthew 7:1-2). If we are not careful, we may just find that our exclusivity might exclude ourselves from the Kingdom of God.

Karlyn Kay Stebbins
10 April 2015

Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:

I have a double major in sociology and psychology and a minor in communications. I was before a licensed addictions counselor in a treatment center up until recently. Due to a drastic series of some life-changing events, I now live in Hawaii and I am going back to school for my master degree in sociology.

I am a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter day Saints and have been a member since 26 March 2011.

My interests are furthering my education and spending time with my partner and her friends and eventually becoming active in the LGBT Community here in Hawaii, and doing some addictions counseling work within that Community. I love to read, write, and hang out at the beach.

Someone Special . . . .In Our Father’s Eyes

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Maya Angelou Quote

God never intended for any of us to be someone’s footstool for them to rest their feet upon, or a door mat for others to wipe their feet on. He also never intended for any of us to be someone’s punching bag to be punched and kicked about when the need to release pent-up frustration and anger arises. Furthermore, He never intended for any of us to be the object of, or the subject of, constant undue ridicule and criticism.

Each of us are special sons and daughters in our Heavenly Father’s eyes. There is not one person who is any more special than another. Our Heavenly Father loves all of His children the same – equally and unconditionally. His love for us is not based on the color of our skin, religious beliefs, religious affiliations, culture, background, or even our sexual orientation. It does not matter to Him if we are married, widowed, single, divorced,  rich, or poor. All of us are special and precious in His sight.

Albert Einstein Quote

How sad it is that there are people in the world who always seem to want to treat others as being beneath them. These are those who live under the misconception that the world revolves around them. They think that the sun rises in the morning and sets in the evening upon them, and so in their mind’s eye they are the only ones that really matter. Everyone else as far as they are concerned are mere insignificant beings. Consequently, they feel that they are the lords and masters and everyone should bow before them as lowly servants. They believe that they can do and say whatever they want, when they want, and treat others any way that they want, and no one should say or do anything about it less their actions become misconstrued as an act of treason or insubordination.

Treat Myself Better

Sadder still is that there are many wonderful people in this world who have allowed themselves to be literally robbed of their dignity and self-worth because daily they live under the tyrannical reminder from those who think of themselves as being better than they, that at best they are hopeless and unworthy to be treated any differently. Though these precious souls may not agree with the way that they are treated, they, for whatever reasons, choose to retreat to being silent and endure such harassment. Some are simply too kind hearten, loving, and caring people to ever want to retaliate in any way or otherwise voice their anger and frustration. And so, in utter desolation, they stay the often silent victims of those who continually take their kindness as a sign of weakness.

We are all someone special. Each of us are a precious soul of worth. As such every one of us is entitled to be treated with dignity, respect, and self-worth. No one should ever be left feeling that they are inferior to another. No one should ever feel that there is another who is master over him, for we have only one true Master – the Lord Jesus Christ – the King of Kings, and the Lord of Lords. And it is at His name that one day every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that He alone is LORD!

If we find that we are the victim of maltreatment that does not automatically give us a poetic license to become vindictive towards our offenders. Instead we need to take a step back for a moment, and then move forward to handle the situation in such a way that a resolution can be reached in a peaceable and sensible way without leaving any of those involved in the conflict feeling lonely, rejected, or otherwise feeling inferior when compared to the others. Let the conflict be resolved with the full understanding of all concerned that we are all indeed someone special, so let us treat each other so.

 

Beware of Judas

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Trust Torn

In this life we must learn to be very wise and discerning about who we choose to call our friends. Everyone who claims to be our friend does not necessarily have our best interest at heart. There are those who seem to be our friend and confidant, but they are “Judas” in disguise. Their character is shady, and they have the gift of gab which they use to deceive and make you seem as a fool.

The psalmist speaks to the Savior knowing that one of His twelve apostles would betray Him. That disciple as we know from the narrative was Judas. The psalmist records in Psalm 41:9, “Yea, mine own familiar friend, in whom I trusted, which did eat of my bread, hath lifted up his heel against me.” I can personally relate this  type of “friend” to the experiences that I had when I was an active participant in the drug culture. The people who I thought were my friends – people who did drugs with me – ended up being nothing more than “Judas” in disguise. Once they got what they wanted, they betrayed me.

I now use extreme caution and wisdom in deciding who I can trust, and who I call my friend. I have also learned that even some people who refer to themselves as “Christians” can be deceiving. They profess one thing, but their own actions towards others, if they are not careful, can oftentimes betray the very things which they claim to profess.

So until we meet again my friends, I counsel you to use wisdom and discernment in deciding who you call your friends.

Karlyn Kay Stebbins
February 14, 2015

Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications.  She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.

The Wayward Child of God

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How to Pray for a Wayward Child

There has been something placed upon my heart. When you are a parent you want the best for your children. You do your best to teach them good morals and standards so that they can live a life that is pleasing to their Heavenly Father. You hope that what you teach them in the days of their youth will carry with them into their adult years. Sometimes, however, it may not seem as though the gospel lessons that you taught while doing your best to raise them in a Godly home with structure, morals, and standards has any positive influence in their lives. And so, as a parent you feel devastated and ask yourself, “Why would my son or daughter choose the path that they are on when I spent so much time teaching them the right way to go?” You find yourself in despair over the matter and soon begin to feel as though you have in some way failed in your duty as a parent.

There is a verse found in Proverbs 22:6 which says, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”This verse not only applies to parents in raising their children, but it also applies to each of us as members of the Church because we are all children of God. The Church teaches us Godly principles to live by as we follow Jesus Christ’s commandments and are faithful to the covenants that we have made. When we are disobedient to God’s commandments and deny the covenants that we have made, we deny ourselves great blessings from the Lord. I am a witness of this as I have been a wayward member of the Church, and have found myself being disobedient to God’s commandments and not living the covenants that I have made. I cannot rationalize or prove the things that I have done as being right because they are not. God gave us commandments and covenants for a reason, and if we choose to live contrary to those things which we know are true, we can find ourselves falling into an empty pit of nothingness.

Because I know in my heart that the Church is true, I have repented and have come back to it, all the while experiencing the joy of knowing that my waywardness has been forgiven.

Karlyn Kay Stebbins
January 31, 2015

Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications. She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.

The Almighty Orchestrator

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When I Lose Hope

Life is full of questions, uncertainties, and inconsistencies. I am sure that there have been times in all of our lives when we have asked the question, “Why did this happen to me?” Or, “Why do bad things happen to animals, innocent children, and genuinely good people?” As I am progressing on my journey to discover who the real Karlyn Stebbins is, I am learning that I can ask “Why this?” or “Why that?” all that I want, but the truth of the matter is that there are some questions that will never be answered in my lifetime. I am beginning to realize that the real question is not “Why?”, but rather the real question that I should be asking myself is “What is God orchestrating in my life?” In other words, what is His plan for my life? What is my real purpose?

This suggests a scripture found in Isaiah 61:3 which has meant a lot to me in my life, and I also believe is one that we all need to give some attention to. The scripture reads:

To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that he might be glorified.

Sitting around and persistently asking “Why?” for every situation that occurs in life, especially those things that are a part of our past, can eventually cause us to become stagnant and can also seriously hinder our spiritual progression. This reminds me of the words of a poem called the “Serenity Prayer” :

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will; that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever in the next. Amen.

What this prayer is basically saying is that we cannot change people, places, things, past events, or future situations that we may encounter. However, we can change our attitude about and our outlook on life. We have to arrive at a point in our life when we finally realize that the things that may have occurred in the past were unjust, but the million dollar question is whether we are going to stay stuck in the past, or change our perspectives and move on with our life as best we can. This may involve taking some actions which may take us out of our comfort zone. But, another thing that I am learning is that if we are uncomfortable taking healthy actions which eventually lead to being part of a solution, then we are growing and truly progressing on our journey.

There is a saying, “Get off the cross, someone else needs the wood.” What that means is we need to stop acting like people are always out to crucify us and us alone, when that is not necessarily the case. For years I have kept myself “on the cross” and that has not provided any solutions to problems in my life either.

Our real purpose in life is to be of greatest service to God and to the people around us. Life itself is ever-changing, but through it all, God remains constant. He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. We must learn to call on and rely on Him during our times of challenges and struggles. He never changes, but the question is, “Are we willing to change for Him?’

Karlyn Kay Stebbins
January 31, 2015

Karlyn Kay Stebbins’ Biography:

Karlyn Kay Stebbins is a guest writer for Morsels Of Bread. She is an addictions counselor and works in a drug rehabilitation center. She has a double major in Sociology and Psychology, and a minor in Communications. She is a convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, having been baptized on 26 March 2011. Her hobbies are reading and writing. She also enjoys spending time with her son and his friends. She is also the Founder of The Conqueror Foundation and has a blog called “Reflection Pays” where she shares her insights.